Tuesday, August 12, 2014

See good in everything & everyone


Hello hello. I've been planning to post this topic earlier but I couldn't, I apologize for being late. Anyways, a few days ago, I've been talking to one of my closest friends and we shared a lot together. She told me lots about her fears and doubts and that reminded me  of a lot of others that share the same thoughts. It really affects me to see brilliant people doubt themselves and fear lots of things. People sometimes complain about their lives and when they do that, they usually forget about the good parts in it. Complaining isn't bad and I can't say it's good either but I know for a fact that we need to talk and sometimes complain to someone we trust.

For several years, I've been noticing that most of the people I know complain to me about lots of things in their lives. Although I could see how good their lives were but I knew that some of them didn't want to hear it.  I could see the difference between a person who truly suffer and a person who just want to complain and that taught me to never waste my time and energy on the wrong ones. Those who really suffer from negative thoughts, fears and doubts want to see the good side in their lives and want to hear about the good things in them. On the other hand, those who just want to complain never see the good side, they don't even bother to look for it and they want to hear nothing about it.

I know that most of us if not all have certain kinds of fears and self-doubts. I know I have lots of these but I never let them hold me back, they might've  prevented me from seeing the good parts but it never stopped me from taking the first step. I know how hard it is to fight your fears but believe in yourself and don't wait for others to believe in you because after all, they won't and some of them will push you down whenever they get the chance. And when it comes to self-doubts, it's a bit harder than fighting your fears because you don't have to eliminate them but on the other hand, you have to accept them. It might take so much time to accept what you have, to love yourself with all your flaws and to see the good things instead of the bad but no matter how much time it's gonna take, I know it's worth the try.

 

I encourage you to see the good parts in everything. I want you to be stronger for yourself and to be thankful for what you already have. Don't let yourself down, believe me at the end of the day all what you have is your own thoughts, let them be bright to make you shine. Don't waste your time complaining to others because they won't get it the same way you do. Don't waste your time focusing on the smallest details that you don't like and forget about the greatest that you love. It's okay to fail, to feel bad about it for some time, to feel betrayed and to cry about it for a whole day but when you're done, then make sure you won't feel the same thing about it and start to take the next step with your head up in the clouds.

I also encourage you to put your distant between the negative people you have in your life, those who call you only to complain about the smallest details and never mention the good ones. Those who never call to ask you how's your day but to fill you up with their negativity and then leave you in their dark spot. Surround yourself with dreamers that never laugh at your dreams, with successful that encourage you to never give up. Surround yourself with believers that believe nothing is impossible and cheerful that always cheer you up whenever you need it. Make sure you're one of those people to lead a perfect life that has ups and downs, but no matter what happens you always see the good in both sides.

It's also important to realize that seeing good in everything might be a bit hard and sometimes you need someone to remind you of the bright side of a negative situation. Always remember, every story has two sides and every situation has two sides, it's all up to you and to the way you want to see it.  It's not going to be easy, trust me with this, but it also won't be hard to never try it. Not to mention that it needs to be practiced, try to see the good parts in the smallest things you hate and then lead the way to the biggest problems you have. See good in your negativity, being a little negative sometimes won't kill you but on the other hand, sometimes it protects you from making a mistake or to prevent you from getting yourself hurt. It's gonna kill you for sure if you can't handle it well, if you can't understand yourself better and if you let it take over the good side. A good amount of everything always help, positivity and negativity help you in different ways and everyone of us has them both. The difference between us is how we handle them and how we make them affect our lives. Don't let both of them take too much of your life, always prepare for the worst and always expect the best.

Moreover, it's important to see good in people as well, don't focus only on the bad sides they have. Train your mind to see good in everything and everyone. If you chose to see the beauty in everything, you will see it and you will appreciate it. If you chose the opposite, you won't be able to live a good life. People make mistakes but don't expect the worst from those who make them and don’t' ignore the good things they do because of that one or two mistakes they've made. Don't always expect good from those who never fail or made a single mistake in front of others. Don't let what you see control what you believe or what you feel is right, sometimes it's okay to expect good from the worst and sometimes it's okay to do the opposite. This way you can protect yourself and it helps you to be fair with yourself and others. Always try to be fair and never judge those who make terrible things because someday, you might do the worst for reasons nobody would understand but yourself.  Train yourself to bring the good in people and be aware that nobody is a saint, we all make mistakes and we all fail but at the end it's all gonna be okay.

      

Sunday, August 3, 2014

An Orphan Kid


 
Hello hello. Since I'm sharing my thoughts and feelings a lot lately, I decided to post something a bit different. I have lots of stories about great people in my life. People that inspired me and motivated me to never give up and to work as hard as I can to get the things I want . They believed in me and encouraged me to be a better person than I used to be. They've witnessed my failures, my disappointments and myself destruction.  I guess telling a story that inspired me is going to help me focus on the bright side of my life. Reminding myself of some of the good people that I met and to take a moment to appreciate them is pretty much useful.
 
A while ago, I had a breakdown and I decided to drop college to work my ass off and to get money for a better one. I thought I was wasting my time on basically nothing. In fact, I believed that but I didn’t have the courage to actually do it. I wasn't paying attention to the things around me, I was a wreck and pretty much lost in my own thoughts. I couldn't figure what's good for me to begin with and how to fix my mistakes without risking too much.
 
One day, I finished my classes and I met this man, he asked me if there's something wrong with me and I started to talk and complain about everything I had in my mind. He is one of the most incredible men I've ever met in my life and he decided to tell me a story about his life when he was younger than me. His story really changed my perspectives and he gave me a better look to the world.
 
He told me about his education story, I know it sounds boring or serious but honestly I could do anything to hear that story again, it literally affected me. I don't know where to begin but let me start from the first thing I remember. He told me that he used to be a great student back in the 60's. he was excellent and he really loved school despite all the difficulties he had back then and prevented him to do his best. When he was 12 he lost his father and that was hard enough for him to do better. He had to take care of his mother and his little sisters.
 
He was the man of the house after his father, he did everything he could to make his family happy. He had to make sacrifices for them and he never hesitated to do what best for them. He told me how difficult it was to be a 12 years old and to have big responsibilities on his shoulders. He had to work at night to make money for his family and he had to go to school every day. He said " I never missed a day, I had big plans for my future and I believed I could do more for my family". After a while, his mother got sick and he needed to work harder to pay for her medicines. He had to drop school for some days to work at  a workshop at night and he also worked at a grocery store. He said, " I used to study for school and work at the same time, it wasn't hard for me because I used to enjoy it"
 
 A couple of years later, his sisters got married and he was alone with his mother. He took care of her besides his job and school. He told me that he never complained about it and he was terrified of the idea of losing her to death. He used to tell her about his day and how delightful it was although he started to suffer between his 2 jobs and school. He couldn't bare the idea of losing his mother, she was everything he had. He had to drop school and to find a job that could pay him well to take a good care of her. She never knew about that and he had to lie to her just to cheer her up. One day, one of his teachers called the house to ask about him and that day was the day his mother found out about the mistake he made. She asked him to go back and to never care about anything else other than his school. He refused that and he begged her to never ask that again.
 
Months later, he had to travel to a different town to work there for 2 days. He asked one of his sisters to take care of his mother while he's gone. It only took him 2 days, but those were the last time he ever heard from his mother.
 
He was 18 when he lost her and that was the only thing he kept fighting for to never lose. He was young and fragile, he couldn't bare the pain and he didn't leave his house for 2 weeks. When he finally realized the ugly truth, he decided to go back to school but they never took him in again. They told him he missed his chance and then he had to go back to his formal job because that’s what left for him.     
 
He told me if he tried harder, he could've completed his education and he could've had better chances for his kids and wife. His family means the world to him and he's willing to do anything for his kids to study at the best schools and universities. He told me he would love for them to be the best of the best. To have better lives than he had but he doesn't want to push them so hard and he wants them to pick the major they prefer. Even if he wants a better one for them, he won't push them at all. All what he wants for them is to follow their dreams and never ever give up. He said life wasn't easy on him and he's doing everything in his power to make it a bit easy on them, they are everything he has in this world.
 
He told me giving up is so easy and he had lots of difficult choices to make. He never gave up and he was hard to take down. He was strong enough for his mother and he never thought he would ever going to lose her, and when she died he gave up on life for a whole 2 weeks. He regret not trying harder to get back to school because he thinks that cost him his children happiness for not being the father they wanted him to be. A successful man and a great father that would give them anything they desire without blinking twice. He feels sorry and he's doing his best for his children to not let them make the same mistake he did a long time ago.
 
He took a moment looking at me about to cry, and he said " you must think less of me now, I know how hard it is to open up to you since you have your own problems to deal with. Let me make it clear to you in other words, it's easy to drop college and to find a job that will pay you good but never good enough. It's easy to let your parents take care of you but they won't last forever. It's not only about college or about how many mistakes you've made. It's all about you and how much are you willing to go or to do to achieve what you want. I live my life regretting one choice I didn't make right and I know you enough to say you hate giving up and I assure you, you're  not willing to regret a choice you've made out of childish thinking. Life is never easy and this is only the beginning of what coming next, if you stopped believing in yourself you won't be able to live a healthy life full of achievements. Stop making people decide for you whether you can or you can't. stop letting them break you down with so many failures. Never regret failing it's nothing but a way to reach what you want and remember success worth it all."


I may never see this guy again and I may never be able to thank him for sharing his story with me. But I believe he opened up for me because he knew how that would help me to make a good decision about my future life. He inspired me and motivated me to do more than giving up and he opened my eyes on so many things I never saw before. He taught me that life is full of obstacles and there's no shame about failure.

I wish him nothing but all the best in life and I wish for his children to make him proud. He's honestly one of the most great fathers.