Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Coffee and Some Love

Hello and welcome to a new post. Grab your cup of coffee, tea or maybe water if you prefer and enjoy reading. Today's post is a bit different from the last three posts. It's not about love, death or anything similar. However, it's about you and me, it's about making a plan to be the person you have to be. A person that leads a healthy, successful and pleasant life. I'm not an expert or successful, I'm only a student that have some good/crazy thoughts and I need to get them out of my head. I also need to make everything clear to myself and you need to read it because it might be helpful or inspiring. Either ways, I hope you find something good for you.

In my opinion, there are 5 easy ways I believe we need to understand and make an effort to achieve them.

1- Believe in yourself: This is important, all the ways I'll mention depend on this one. How do you  want to lead a good life if you don't believe in yourself? How can you achieve anything if you don't believe in yourself? Believing in yourself will make things pretty easy to achieve , because then you will have nothing to stop you. Stop doubting yourself for how long you can go, stop assuming that if it won't happen now then it'll never happen. Remember all the troubles you've been through and how you fought to be here today. Remember all the battles you have won and all the fears that couldn't stop you. Believe that you're stronger, smarter and brave enough to continue your way through. Start a new positive pattern of thoughts, don't get lost in your bad emotions and more importantly don't believe them. Your negative thoughts are only thoughts but that’s it. On the other hand, your good thoughts are true, yes you're good enough, smart enough and an amazing person so stop doubting that and start dreaming big. Don't you ever forget that you CAN and you WILL.

I need to remind myself of that and I need to remind others too. It's good to give yourself a push upward every time you feel down. Be positive and be brave.  

2- Be kind: Always and I mean ALWAYS, be kind with yourself and others. Don't judge people on their wrongdoings, don't blame them on their mistakes, don't call them names and be nice to them. If you find that hard to do, then you should stop making relationships with others  . Stop mingling with them, because we don't need to spread negativities around we have enough of them for a life time. In fact, you must try to change yourself to be nicer, wiser and better. In order to be successful, I believe that being a nice person is important. Judging, underestimating and making others feel bad will do you no good. It's only a reflection of how you feel about yourself and you're throwing it on others to feel better about yourself. Believe me when I say it won't make you anything but pathetic, foolish and you'll feel even worse. To be happy and successful, feel good for others achievements, encourage them and compete with them. You also have to help them and make them feel good about themselves. This is the best way to be successful and most of all, to be a good person. Aren't we all need at least one person like that in our lives?

3- Make goals: Ask yourself this, what are your goals for this year? What do you want to accomplish? Have you accomplished any of them yet? If not, do you have a specific time to be done with them? You must have a specific time, it will make it easier to accomplish more. To me, I have lots of goals and some of them are pretty simple, like working out, reading books, eating healthy and etc. It might be nothing to you but it's something to me. Till now I've accomplished most of the simple ones. My big goals, sadly, I'm just changing the label color of them every time I go through them. Although I have to finish them at a certain time but I still have plenty of it. My biggest goal for now is to graduate and to find a job that pays me well, to help me achieve more. In other words, I think making goals is necessary. You don't need to make big goals that might be hard or take a long time to achieve but  you need to achieve something that will make you proud. Achieving goals will make you feel good about yourself and it's a must for leading a successful life.
 
"Set a goal that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning"- The Color Run.
 
4- Take risks: You have to be open about taking risks. You have to be willing to fail and learn from it, don't let your failure consume you and look at it as an opportunity to improve yourself. No matter how many time you fail and how many people push you down, stand up, chin up and prove to yourself you CAN because you WILL. Be productive, start your day with easy tasks and then with tasks that take longer to finish. I like to do that because this way I work better and I achieve more. Do your own way to work better and be creative.

5- Experience: We all have experienced different things in life, mistakes that made us grow or success that we learned from. In a way or another, we've must learned something from our experiences even if it’s a small thing. Some of our experiences might have been really hard on us, some of them destroyed something in us and some of them changed us in either a good way or a bad way. I've experienced things myself that made me weak instead of helping me growing and learning and there's no harm in that. However, being weak in a short period of time is okay, but never settle for that. I know it's comfortable to try things you already know their outcomes, a certain amount of success is never bad. On the other hand, challenge yourself to do more, to experience new things and that will do you not only good but GREAT things. Challenge yourself to try new things and to be better, fill your life with experiences and learn from them. Grow up, and stop being afraid of things that don't exist! Every fear you have and every negative thought is nowhere but in your head.

Ps. I'm only writing this because I've met people that made me feel bad about myself. People that underestimated me and made me feel nothing. One of those were a friend of mine and I just want you to understand how bad it is for you to be that person. If you're trying to live a good life, be a good person from the inside out and stop the hate on others. Be good, do good and then you will feel good. I know I'm not an expert but I'm smart enough to learn from my mistakes and others mistakes.

After all, I suggest you do your own perfect ways to be productive and successful. Help me with new ways in the comments below. 

Stay healthy and positive.
 


 

2 comments:

  1. so touching and inspiring to move on with your life after a mistake or a heart break or losing something or someone ,, its right to be positive all the time and its good too ,, keep going ,,you are so , so , so close to be an expert :) and you will be inshaAllah :)

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    1. Aww so sweet of you to say that. Thanks for your support, it really means a lot <3

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